Lifestyle blogger Surekha of dreaming loud wearing Soprano Popover Lace Dress
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Know Your Worth! How My Corporate Job and Blogging Taught Me That

Lifestyle blogger Surekha of dreaming loud wearing Soprano Popover Lace Dress
Lifestyle blogger Surekha of dreaming loud wearing Soprano Popover Lace Dress

Wearing: Dress (under $50) | Mango Bag (under $80) | Ferragamo pumps (similar here and here) | Earrings | Sunglasses (under $10 here) | Cuff

 

I am a person who always hide behind the words “I would rather let my work speaks for itself”.

I am an IT women who struggle to fit in the world that revolves around communicating your VALUE.

That means a person who can sing their own praises better is the one always leading. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not a bad thing at all. It is self-appraisal, your perception of self-worth. They are 2 kinds of people you will see in the corporate world.

1) Fearless- People who are aware of their strength, know the value they could add to the team and are fearless to communicate it.

2) Fakers- People who may not know anything but confident enough to fake it. Confidence doesn’t always come naturally, you may have to fake it sometimes to get what you want.

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Lifestyle blogger Surekha of dreaming loud wearing Soprano Popover Lace Dress 1
Lifestyle blogger Surekha of dreaming loud wearing Mango Metallic handle shoulder bag in burgundy
Lifestyle blogger Surekha of dreaming loud wearing Mango Metallic handle shoulder bag in burgundy

My first job as a consultant at a big 4 consulting firm taught me that they are people in between after looking at myself. These people are aware of the impact they can make in the project but fail to communicate the same. I call them slow failures because we don’t realize we are FAILING ourself until reality hit us hard.

I worked hard for a year for a promotion I was due. I thought I was doing everything right by working extra hours, taking up extra work that wasn’t my responsibility, by seeking good reviews from my managers, and by producing quality work but guess that wasn’t enough. I didn’t get the promotion because I wasn’t loud enough to reach the high authorities. Yes, I wasn’t communicating the value I was adding to the team. In brief, I wasn’t acclaiming my own work.

Take away: Learn to talk about your work. Over communication is better than under communication.

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Lifestyle blogger Surekha of dreaming loud wearing Soprano Popover Lace Dress 2
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Lifestyle blogger Surekha of dreaming loud wearing Soprano Popover Lace Dress 4

I am a blogger who struggles to fit in the world that DEMANDS worth. 

Bloggers have the most overlooked job. No offense to anyone. Every brand wants to work with you for FREE. They don’t seem to understand the pain, hard work, thought process, money, research and mental agony that goes beyond every post. They want to lure you with a free product in return for a post that will take up your entire day. Is that all you are worthy of? a FREE product?

It does make sense to work for free when you are a newbie, trying to build a community but you need to know where to draw the line, where to start popping the payment question.

When I started my blog and connecting with brands. I wasn’t aware of the fact that you have to ask for compensation, I wasn’t aware that not every brand is going to come to you with the best offer. I was happily taking whatever they were offering because I was overwhelmed by the fact that brands want to work with me.

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Lifestyle blogger Surekha of dreaming loud wearing Soprano Popover Lace Dress 7
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Lifestyle blogger Surekha of dreaming loud wearing Mango Metallic handle shoulder bag in burgundy 1

The only thing I was always concerned was to stay true to myself and my brand. I politely turned down many offers for not fitting with the brand/image. I refused big beauty brands that didn’t have natural ingredient. Similarly, with fashion brands, I don’t endorse stuff I don’t feel comfortable wearing like deep necks, shorts, etc. that don’t fit in my personal style.

I was undermining my reach, my hard work, and my self-worth by believing I was offered what I was worthy of. Until one day when I heard from my fellow bloggers on how they ASK and negotiate price. It was an eye-opener for me knowing you have to demand your worth when you are not given one.

Take away: Learn to say no when you are not given the value you deserve.

Lifestyle blogger Surekha of dreaming loud sharing how to know your worth
Lifestyle blogger Surekha of dreaming loud sharing how to know your worth

If you are a blogger and don’t how much you should charge?. Check social bluebook website for your brand value. The website evaluates your social media networks, blog and suggests you a low and high price per post that you can negotiate.

What are your thoughts on knowing your worth? would love to hear your experiences?

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Dress (under $50) | Mango Bag (under $80) | Ferragamo pumps (similar here and here) | Earrings | Sunglasses (under $10 here) | Cuff

“When you learn how much you’re worth, You’ll stop giving people discounts”
Thank you for stopping by!
Love, 
Surekha

  • Yes! I love this Surekha! Thank you for the reminder.

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  • Jenni L.

    This is a great reminder. Always communicate your value! Also, that color looks lovely on you!

    • Thank you so much! Yes letting the other person see your value is also impotant. I love this color too. I am glad I finally found a lace without the sphagatti straps

  • yes yes yes!! I am all about saying no and over communicating! Otherwise you’re left with nothing in the bank and resentments!

    • I learnt it the hard way but I am glad I leant it. Thanks Rachel for stopping by

  • Tania Potter

    It’s a steep learning curve isn’t it! Self worth is such a tricky area and it takes practice to be able to ask for the price you deserve. Good on you for getting there.

    • I totally agree! It is definitely a practice. You are never paid what you are worthy of but what others think you are worthy of. So communicating and letting the other person see your worth is also important.

  • Always a good reminder to demand what we’re worth. Thanks for sharing!

  • Akhila Ram Vure

    Oh my gosh.. u look stunning..! and the post is soo motivating..a thing most of the asians should adapt.. cuz I feel it is kind of cultural.. we are taught to be humble, not flaunt your talents or assets or whatnot. you’re much more conscious about staying out of the spotlight and being humble than claiming the credit for what u have done and knowing/proving ur self worth

  • Kids On Tour Autism Without Li

    I didnt know about social bluebook! Thanks! I also struggle with this as I keep doing posts for free to try and build up to charging but I also feel bad asking!

  • Neha Kulshrestha

    Yes so true you need to know your true worth and learn to say no. Though i will have to work on Over communicating.
    Your dress is beautiful, love the color.

  • My middle name is over communicate! I have found it so much better than not enough communication. I am also getting better at saying no. I still have room for improvement but I much better than I used to be.

  • Jhilmil Mommyinme

    Didn’t knew about the Social Bluebook, Though I am aware of my brand worth, but for sure want to look what the tools say:). Loved your dress and heels, you look beautiful.

  • Laura Dove

    I love this, you are so right. I think it’s so important not to undersell yourself, I used to make the mistake of doing things in exchange for low value items and then realising I was working for just a few pence an hour!!

  • Jalisa Marie

    I love this. I didn’t understand the worth of charging when working with brands in the beginning. It’s just like any job and a learning curve.

  • Such a great post. It really is so important to stay true to your brand and decide what route is best for your growth as a blogger. It is a lot of hard work. Unfortunately the oversaturated business has paved a path where we have to work even harder to demand our worth because the brands someone else will do it for free.

  • I lovelovelove this! I always say you’re worth more than free, because you are. I love it when other women recognize their value as well–in blogging and other areas of life!

  • Alison Rost

    Such wise words, Surekha. Love this post, as I’m much like you, with a career in IT and a blog on the side. I think especially in the field of IT, where it is still dominated mostly by men, it can make it even harder for us to stand up and communicate our worth and ideas. x

  • June Jewels

    Thank you for this inspiring post! I haven’t been in the cooperate world for long but if I’ve learned one thing it is that communication your work is much more important than the work you actually do. So the people who are great talkers tend to get promotions and raises much quicker and more easily than people who are not great talkers but provide higher quality work. It’s a bit backward if you ask me. Regardless, I learned, like you, to know my worth and to communicate it.

  • Great post that I’m sure would resonate with many bloggers who are doing their best to monetize their blogs. It’s so true that many people are not comfortable with pushing their own worth but they have to learn how to do this well to compete alongside others in the same blogging space.

  • I can 100% agree with you! When I worked in the corporate world I had to overcome so many of the same situations – like always be clear about what you are expecting, make your manager aware that you would like to be promoted (verbal recognition does nothing).

    xx, Kusum | http://www.sveeteskapes.com

  • I love the lacy dress and the bag! I routinely question my worth, especially since earning my doctoral degree. I’ll have to look up that Social Bluebook site to learn more!

  • I LOVE this! I definitely feel like I wouldn’t know my worth in the blogging world amongst such amazing other bloggers. I do feel its sad that so many companies feel like they shouldn’t have to pay for a good, long review of their products though.

  • A darling post, it is important always to know your self worth and not let anyone rob you of it.

  • Rahul Khurana

    Loved reading about this. I have done corporate jobs for 5 years until recently i decide to quit as their was no=o personal development an new learning. And i think writing and blogging gives a chance to the people (who dont like to boast off) to present themselves to the world. I agree that blogging is the toughest thing to do and one should demand according to the their worth.

  • Kari Carter

    Thanks for the tip! Going to check social bluebook now!

  • Cat Chiang

    Such an important conversation to have. Thanks for sharing!

  • Such an important post! Totally crucial to recognize your value no matter what industry you’re in,

  • 100% agree with you! I had the same problems when I was working with people at college during group assignments. I found that there was a lot of praise for the louder members and the majority of us were left behind. It took a long, long time for me to communicate what I had put forward because I never thought it was ‘good enough’. Weird how we always think that about ourselves, no? It’s high time that we recognise our value as team members, people, and just general kick-ass humans – in all areas of life!

  • Knowing your worth is really so very important! It’s far too easy to get taken if you don’t know what you are worth and stand up against what people offer you when it’s lower…

  • I love this post! I’m in IT, too, and it took me a while to feel comfortable enough to be fearless! Also, I’m looking for women to feature in my XO women series and I was wondering if you would be interested in letting me interview you? I have one post on my blog if you want to check it out! 🙂

    • Aww!! Thank you so much Roxy. I checked your post. It’s fun and motivating to know other women stories. I would love to be a part of such wonderful series.

  • Brittany Daoud

    This is such a good post! I’ve been thinking about my worth as a blogger a lot lately. It’s really hard to know when it’s time to start asking to be paid. I’ve been blogging for a year and half, I’m still a “small” blogger but I still don’t feel like it’s fair to work for free. I worked for free for the entire first year and I still work for free sometimes now, but on projects where I have to put in an entire day or several days effort…to me that’s not worth it. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! xo, Brittany | http://www.theblistblog.com

    • Hi Brittany! I am a small blogger too. I did a lot of free posts for Brands for many reasons. But I no longer do it unless I really like the brand and want to promote them badly. I agree I almost work for a full day for every post I do. So,it’s not worth to work for FREE

  • Annissa Slusher

    I love that you stay true to yourself when working with products! Why is it that companies seem to think blogger will advertise for them for free? They have no idea how much time and effort blogging takes!

    • I know right? It’s also because some blogger has set the standards such way. If you ask for money they will go to some other bloggers who can work for free. Because they are plenty of them out there who would do it for free

  • I am so inspired by you! Your story and experiences also made me reflect upon when I worked in the office myself and it was a hard industry for me. Voicing my worth is something I am working on as well. Thank you for your solid example! I love your content!

    • Thank yo so much Debbie. Self worth is a practice. We have to constantly remind our-self to no be treated certain way. And learn to speak back or walk away from something and people who don’t respect that. I hope we both succeed in our Journey towards self worth

  • Dia

    Yes! It’s like if you don’t know your own worth no one else is going to tell you and if they do you won’t believe it until you’re ready. Also I have had to start saying, “I don’t do free reviews.” I have made a few exceptions for products over a certain amount and for a product I either really believe in.

    • I did a lot of them in my first year but I no longer do them. I think it’s because of such bloggers brands take bloggers work lightly.