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Smart Is Sexy


Last week I watched a video posted by Mayim Bialik on how celebs and fashionistas disrobing in the name of empowerment. Everything she said was like a deja vu for me as I shared a similar thought with one of my friends few days back.

I find a bunch of semi-naked posts every single day with quotes on self-love, body-positive and finding happiness. Some of these women post to gain acceptance, to find a reason to love their body by the number of likes and comments they get and some post because they have found a reason to love their body and want to liberate the same through their feed.I am not writing this hating on such posts or by any means jealous of their wonderfully built bodies. I am a big believer in doing what you believe in doing. A woman’s body is hers and she has all the freedom to do whatever she wants to do with it, but like Mayim said in her video equating empowerment and self- love not with strength or intelligence or confidence, but only with sexiness, is giving a wrong message to young girls.

Being a fashion blogger myself and a women who codes for living, sexiness doesn’t always fits me in a red sizzling backless dress but it also fits me in my guts to snooze my alarm every morning and still manage to reach office on time looking snappy and stylish, it fits me in my confidence to pull an oily hair to a client meeting because you literally had no time to wash it yet manage to steal the deal, it fits me in my courage to make my voice reach in a male dominant software world, it fits me in the way I pull myself up when failing miserably.


Outfit Details: Asos Ruffle Hem Skirt (wearing US size 2; also available in yellow, red, white and pink) | Lace Tank (also like this; last seen here) | Jacket (on sale; more options 1,2,3) | Pumps | Straw Bag | Bandana | Earrings | Sunglasses | Watch c/o Daniel Wellington (Use code:  DREAMINLOUD for 15% off)

There are thousands of successful business women, scientists, social activist, political leaders, entrepreneurs, etc. who are round shaped. Why aren’t they considered as inspiration when it comes to body-positivity? why are only naked celebs or fashionistas are treated as role models?

Embracing and honoring beauty and sexuality is a small part of who we are as a woman. Empowerment is more than just body image, it’s in the ability to make a difference in the society.

Young girls today should know that their strength doesn’t only lie in the way they look but also in the way they think, act and react- sexiness is being smart, confident and much more.


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Asos Ruffle Hem Skirt (wearing US size 2; also available in yellow, red, white and pink) | Lace Tank (also like this; last seen here) | Jacket (on sale; more options 1,2,3) | Pumps | Straw Bag | Bandana | Earrings | Sunglasses | Watch c/o Daniel Wellington (Use code:  DREAMINLOUD for 15% off)

“Sexy is new smart”
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  • Robin Rue

    I am absolutely in love with that skirt. It is so cute and can be worn so many ways.

  • Gabriela Cerdas

    I´ve been seing this trend all over the place.. thinking I shoul dgive it a try!

  • tara pittman

    That skirt is so pretty. I love the color of those shoes.

  • I have always liked ruffles on the hems of my skirts and dresses. I love how the ruffles look so cute and pretty.

  • Helene Bludman

    Love the skirt and the way you put together this outfit. The shoes are awesome, too!

  • I completely agree, being smart and having ambition is a turn on and you are right we can all choose to present ourselves however we want. The definition of sexiness is dependent on a persons own personal opinion x

  • Cassie Liz

    I am so into ruffles at the moment!! And this skirt is definitely on point. You look beautiful 🙂

  • You make some very true, relevant and powerful points in this post. Hopefully the world is slowly changing with regard to how women are seen in respect to beauty, our minds and actions. I tend to be more conservative in fashion and I do love the look you have chosen in this post.

  • You make some really good points. I think as long as you are confident in your own body, that is what is most important.

  • GREAT POST! Thank you for spreading healthy and positive notions of self-worth. Girls, young women and ladies are much more than their exterior!

  • Krystel Seijo

    Loving this post and the points you are making. With being a woman it seems like it has to be one or the other, brains or beauty. When in reality, we all have both.

  • Sona Sethi

    I have a thing for shoes and love to make a full range shoe wardrobe. This color is so awesome!

  • Jessica Hughes

    I love Mayim and her quest to show women and young girls that being self confident and loving yourself is dependent on what you or your body looks like. I want my little girl to grow up loving her body and treating it well by being healthy, not worrying about her size.

  • I love the design of this skirt, and I think it’s so important for everyone to know that being happy in your body isn’t only possible when you’re a particular size or shape x

  • Chei Pangan

    Having a nice body shape id not the only way to be called sexy. Having that self-confidence with anything you do and wear counts.

  • Jason Gill

    A very good read and on the hind sight, treating your body right means to be conscious about your health, food and so on. And yes, you are what you are. not everyone’s body react the same way. Just embrace it and you will see that life cheerful..

  • Claudia Krusch

    Confidence is a huge part of being sexy. This skirt looks amazing on you. It would be great on all body types.

  • Jen At Dapperhouse

    Many men and women say that confidence is the sexiest quality and I agree. I can feel sexy in gym pants and a sweatshirt. I may not be “attractive” as a sex object to many men by wearing it, but it matters how I feel about myself. I love your post and the outfit you chose.

  • Marceline Dementori

    That’s very well said. It’s important that we realize that looks aren’t everything and that we can be so much more than the clothes that we wear or the make-up that we use. It’s amazing to be a woman and we should embrace our skills and capabilities. Smart is sexy indeed!

  • Samantha

    You’re so right! I see many photos of half naked girls with empowering captions but nobody ever mention the smart and inspiring women.
    (Love the outfit too!)

    • Thank you Samantha for reading the post! loving your body doesn’t mean we have to strip and post photos but it depends on persons perseption but it’s high time we focus on loving yourself as a whole.

  • Sabrina Barbante

    Well… being sexy is something that is a bit overrated, in my opinion. Being beautiful – wonderful and self confident is more and more important and.. funny 🙂 I love your skirt and shoes!

    • I do agree! May be as hrown ups we are able to understand. But for young girls who find inspiration on YouTube and Instagram, its sending a wrong message

  • Amalia

    Totally agree with you! What I see these days make me really sad, women should think about investing in being smart before they just show off their new bikinis!

  • Shannon Graham

    I couldn’t agree more! I’ve spent my life focusing on my career and am married now. The women who had the habits you point out, are still unmarried and have no career or any real future at this point.

  • Clarinda Santiago

    A person looks sexy in my eyes, if he/she is confident enough to talk and to walk. A woman who is graceful enough and who is composed despite a horrible situation, looks sexy to me.

  • Great post! I tend to be a bit more modest myself, and sometimes I wonder about those who seem to flaunt themselves. But I’m sure in their minds they’re doing what feels right for them. I hope I can guide my daughters to their true selves in these matters…

  • Melanie Edjourian

    Self love doesn’t really have much to do with sexiness . It is far more about having confidence in yourself and the way you body is with all it’s flaws.

  • Clint

    That is a nice skirt. I think my wife would like something like that. She would also like that bag.

  • Adaleta Avdic

    That skirt looks amazing on you! I really love the pop of colours you added!!

  • I totally agree with you. I’m tired of seeing people post things like “Love yourself!” and they’re half naked in their photos to get likes… I completely get it. It’s borderline fake! Anyways, your photos, your style, and your writing is beautiful – just focus on that. 🙂

  • Alayna

    Love this post! I was just reading a post the other day where the writer argued that instead of telling every girl she’s beautiful, we need to make it okay to NOT be beautiful (or sexy). Sure, there’s certainly nothing wrong with having abs of steel and a model face, but in reality most of us fall short. It shouldn’t be the only thing we aspire to. There’s lots of other qualities that are more important!

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  • When we spend more time on self discovery and building connections that matter, we won’t have to feel we are lacking anything… I say tune out the noise and tune in to self.